Frequently Asked Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
Getting Started
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People come to me for many reasons. Some are planning ahead for their own care. Others are helping someone they love who's seriously ill. And some simply know they don't want to face this alone. Whatever the reason, I’m glad you’re here.
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Not at all. Many people begin this process while they're still healthy. Whether you're planning ahead, facing a diagnosis, or supporting someone else, if you're thinking about it, that's a good sign it's time to start.
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We begin with a free 30-minute phone call. You'll share what's happening, and I'll share more about how I might help. It's a great chance to ask questions and get a feel for how we might work together. We'll also talk through logistics, like location, availability, and whether in-person or virtual support makes the most sense for you. After our conversation, I'll send you a proposal with more details, including my schedule and pricing. Of course, there's no commitment, just a thoughtful conversation.
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We'll figure that out together. If you're planning ahead, Advance Care Planning might be the right fit. If someone is near the end of life, End-of-Life Guidance includes everything you need. Looking for regular visits for someone you love, or a break as a caregiver? That's Companion Care. Want to plan meaningful final days? That's Vigil Planning.
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I’m based in Park Slope, Brooklyn (11215) and primarily serve Brooklyn and Manhattan. For in-person services, I generally work within about an hour's commute via public transit—which covers most of Brooklyn and Manhattan, and parts of Queens. If you're outside this area but need support, we can talk through options during your free consultation to see what might be possible based on your needs and location.
How I Can Help
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I offer emotional, practical, and planning support around death and dying. That might include sharing your healthcare wishes, working on legacy projects, preparing loved ones, or simply being present during hard moments.
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Hospice is a medical service. Its focus is managing pain, symptoms, and physical comfort in the final months of life. A death doula works alongside hospice, not instead of it. I handle everything else: the emotional support, the practical coordination, the conversations that don't fit neatly into a medical appointment, and the presence that medical teams simply don't have time to provide. If your person is already on hospice, I can work directly with that team.
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I lead with warmth, honesty, and respect. I will listen closely and meet you exactly where you are, without judgment or pressure.
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I often collaborate with hospice, palliative care, home health aides, and medical teams. As I don’t provide medical or hands-on care, it’s important to work with other professionals to ensure your voice is heard and your wishes are honored.
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Yes. I can help you prepare for conversations with loved ones—especially about care decisions, advance directives, or your final wishes. These talks can feel heavy, but you don’t have to do them alone.
How It Works
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Yes. I’ll guide you through what’s most important to you and help you complete the right forms. While I don’t provide legal advice, I can connect you with an attorney if needed.
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Yes. The advance directive forms I use are legal in your state. They clearly show your wishes and can help guide your care if you can't speak for yourself. If you need a will, trust, or other legal documents, you'll need to talk with a lawyer; I can help you find one if you'd like.
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Yes. I work with people facing all kinds of health conditions, including cancer, dementia, ALS, and heart disease, and I have additional training in dementia care. Your diagnosis doesn't determine whether I can help; it just helps me tailor support to your needs. I also work with people who aren't sick but want to plan ahead, or who are caring for someone else.
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I welcome people from all backgrounds and beliefs. I want to ensure I learn what’s important to you and those closest to you. I’m committed to honoring your cultural, spiritual, or faith-based traditions as part of your care.
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Yes. I affirm and support people of all genders, sexualities, and family structures, and I've completed SAGECares training in LGBTQ+ affirming care. Your identity, relationships, and chosen family are always respected here.
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No problem. I can work with people virtually if in-person support isn't practical. For in-person services, I primarily work within Brooklyn and Manhattan, generally within about an hour of Park Slope via public transit. We'll talk through location and format during your free consultation to determine the best way to work together. If needed, I can help connect you with local support in your area.
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I am not available 24/7; however, I commit to responding to phone calls, emails, and texts in a timely manner. We'll talk about what's possible during your first meeting.
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That's completely normal. You can update your preferences at any time. I encourage check-ins after big life changes; updates are usually simple and straightforward.
My Services
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Most people spend 3–4 hours across 2–3 sessions. You can move at your own pace and bring loved ones, especially your chosen healthcare agent, if you'd like.
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Depending on your situation, it may include advance care planning, vigil planning, companion care visits, legacy projects, and working alongside your care team. I generally start with one or two visits per week, and we can adjust the timing and services as needed.
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I provide attentive, non-medical companionship: conversation, activities, calm presence, and comfort. That might mean regular visits for an older adult at home, or coverage so a family caregiver can rest, run errands, or take time for themselves. Companion support is also built into End-of-Life Guidance.
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Anytime. Whether your final days are near or still far off, vigil planning helps reduce anxiety and gives loved ones clarity and confidence in how to support you.
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Not at all. Some clients are healthy and planning ahead. Others are living with serious illness or supporting someone who is dying. I meet people at many different points.
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Legacy work looks different for everyone. Some people write letters, record stories, or create keepsakes for loved ones. Others reflect on their values or plan rituals. I can help you figure out what that looks like for you.
Cost & Access
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I believe end-of-life planning should be accessible to everyone. The different price levels allow people to pay at a comfortable level for their situation. Everyone receives the same care, attention, and respect, no matter what they pay. I will never ask you to justify your chosen tier.
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Please reach out. I am committed to making this work accessible, and may be able to offer a payment plan or use the Community Care Fund to help cover costs.
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For most Brooklyn and Manhattan locations within about an hour of Park Slope via public transit, there's no travel fee. If your location requires driving or significantly longer travel time, we’ll talk this through during your free consultation and discuss any small travel fee based on your specific needs.
Working With Loved Ones
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You don't have to, but it often helps. And when I say loved ones, I mean anyone in your circle of support: chosen family, close friends, or caregivers. It's up to you who's involved.
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I've supported many families through this. I'll make sure your wishes are clearly understood and help your loved ones work through any differences with care and respect.
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As a former caregiver, I know how demanding this role can be, and I'm here for your entire care circle. I offer short-term breaks through Companion Care, and caregiver support is built into every End-of-Life Guidance package.
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That's completely okay. Many people feel unsure when they first reach out. That's why I start with a conversation, to hear your story and explore how I might help.